Confidence: Fake It Till You Make It

Do you find yourself feeling nervous in social situations or stuttering for works in important business meetings? A lack of confidence is common in the world we live in today. As the rise of social media took hold of our lives, more of us are faced with what looks like happy, confident and bold people, living incredible moments and achieving amazing things. We spend hours comparing ourselves to others, and it can be really harmful to our mental health.

You need to remember that social media is a web of lies. In most cases, relationships look amazing, people look flawless, and their lives look so exciting. The truth is you are only seeing a snapshot of what that person wants you to see. Many users of Instagram explain how they spend hours taking the right shot and then just as long editing it, to ensure everything looks perfect. While their images make them look like they are confident people, behind the scenes, they are agonising over various things. Relationships always look great on the internet too. No one posts photos of their partner and them in the middle of a row. Or the days where they are so tired they can’t even look at each other. So, you need to stop comparing yourself to social media and start living your best life for yourself.

One of the best ways to get confident is to fake it. Very few people feel good about themselves all the time, but they have mastered techniques of hiding their insecurities and inner worries. There are a few steps you can take to mask how you feel, which will actually make you feel a little bit better about yourself and will lead to more compliments which in turn will boost your confidence.

You can start with something as simple as your style. If you dress with an attitude, then people will notice you. If you are worried about looking people in the eye, then grab a pair of shades that will make an impression. There are more options than you can imagine when it comes to using fashion to hide your confidence issues. Sometimes something as simple as the way we wear our hair can give us the confidence boost we need to hold our head up high.

You should address any significant issues that you have. Talk to a friend or better still seek out some counselling and get to the heart of your worries. Maybe something happened in your childhood which has made you fearful of rejection. Talking this through with a professional can help you to solve the issue and pick up tips on how to act confident even when you are feeling like crawling into a ball and hiding under the nearest table. The more you fake it, the easier it will become to face the situations you are afraid of.

Confidence doesn’t come naturally to us all, so don’t be afraid to get creative and pretend that you are bolder and brighter than you really feel!

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