Don't Touch a Black Womans Hair Syndrome

You know you do it too, Have you actually ever let anyone apart from your stylist touch your hair?
Yesterday evening after 10 years of knowing my husband, for some bizarre unexpected reason he decided to touch my hair!! A first I wasn't really sure what to say then I calmed down a but. Usually I hate people touching my hair, I never actually say anything when colleagues touch my hair at work, I kinda duck away looking extremely uncomfortable like they'd taken a nude photograph of me or something.

What is up with that?? Why are we so scared of people touching our hair, You would have thought my husband had Nair hair remover on his hands. I know some people talk about hair envy, some myth about your hair falling out, if someone who is envious of your hair touches it.

When I had weaves in this type of behaviour was 10 times worse, I was so scared anyone would realise that what was on my head wasnt my real hair, if people came anywhere near to me to be able to look at my hair I would move away, I was increasingly scared of tall people (I am only 5'2) and when I started working with Marie who was 6", I would spend ages in the morning examining the top of my head to make sure there wasn't any dandruff or tracks from the weave showing. 

This is one of the main reasons I stopped wearing a weave, I missed my own curly hair. I missed being able to put my hands in my own hair and I hated the itching. Since I started wearing my own hair again and actually looking after it, I feel so much more confident and I don't hide from people anymore. When people put there hands in my hair I a still terrified they will discover my secret shame, my fake hair, but then I remember there is nothing to hide. I can imagine that this similar to the way you feel when you make the decision to go "Au Natural". 

I now have a daughter and I do plan to stop relaxing my hair and I hope that the confidence of no longer hiding your true self and not having to manipulate my hair to get to look like something it isn't will feel the same way. But I am taking it one step at a time and at the moment this me feels really confident and really REAL and really ME. Not weaving my hair anymore or wearing wigs is one of the best decisions I have ever made.


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